If you were the mom Saturday in the parking lot of the mall right outside of Cheesecake Factory I want to apologize. I'm sorry that you thought I'd sit behind you, waiting for your spot while continuously honking for over 2 minutes.
I know you thought it was me, as when you pulled out, you immediately pulled over, put on your hazards marched back to my car and asked, nay demanded, if there was a problem. I explained, badly and a little haphazardly, that they impatient individual behind me had lost his mind. You then mumbled that maybe I was just trying to tell you you'd dropped something. You then turned around, hurried back to your car and quickly drove away.
I'd like to let you know that I was patiently waiting for your spot. Like you, I often shop with my mom and my son, so I know that sometimes getting multiple people, bags, a stroller and then yourself into the car can take some time. I was prepared to wait as long as necessary, it's Saturday and I had nowhere to be in a hurry. In fact, I rather enjoyed watching your son dance, skip and twirl around with your umbrella stroller. I think it may have been minions or maybe superhero themed. It was definitely bright and colorful. His joy was almost infectious and the careful and loving way you helped your mom get settled into the car was kind, nice and thoughtful. Too many people rush these days and don't take the time to really show love and respect to their elders, in all the little ways.
Then, I saw a car turn up the lane behind me and approach quickly. He revved his engine and frantically gestured for me to move aside. This was a one car lane, so I didn't want to move over. Also, I was afraid that he would hit your son in his haste to get passed me, so I sat there. He started honking and I sat there. I refused to move as he started screaming (I couldn't hear what he said but assume as he was crazy gesturing and his mouth was moving that he was probably yelling obscenities), revved his engine and then continued honking. You heard the honking, collected your son and gave me the side-eye. As you started putting your son, carefully but with more haste now, in his car seat he continued to honk and I still refused to move.
I was getting rattled but at this time, it's been about 1.5 minutes, maybe less. Then, the guy behind me threw his car in reverse, placed his foot fully on the gas, backed out of the lane and nearly hit a little girl and his father and then sped away. I believe he missed them by spare inches.
I still feel that if I'd had let him pass, you may have ended the day at the hospital as he seemingly had a serious and total disregard for anyone. The security guard even rushed up and asked if everything was OK. I explained the situation and he went after the other motorist, even calling it in on his radio. Then, you pulled out, pulled over and then asked if there was a problem. Again, I want to apologize that you thought I'd harass you so.
I also want to say that, when you got out of your car and approached my car, I was frightened for the safety of myself and that of my son, as well as, for your safety. What if I had been the person who had so aggressively honked and behaved? You could have been harmed, as road rage is nothing with which to toy or fool. As you approached I felt trapped, frightened, apprehensive and a little guilty, as I only rolled down my window a few inches, as I didn’t know your intentions. I was worried, as my little man was safely tucked into his car seat and a stranger, who thought I had been aggressive with them, was approaching my car. I didn’t have a clear way to exit the situation, as there were people behind me and you were blocking the lane ahead of me, so I had to let it play out.
At the end of it, outside of a few stressful moments, there was no harm done to any individual involved, but I still was on the brink of tears after this situation. I'd also like to thank the mom who pulled over as I was getting my son in the stroller and heard me finally break down and just yell at him (everything above had really stressed me out) to keep his shoes on his feet. Thank you. You didn't have to pull over and give me a kind word, but you did. You said we'd all been there and that I had this. Thank you. You really made my day a little better. Thank you.
On a personal note, moms/dads/grandparents/aunts/uncles, I’m begging you, if you are in a situation where someone is honking at you, please don’t leave your vehicle – especially with passengers and your littles inside. Whatever you think you may have left, lost or if you just want to give them a piece of your mind, please stay in your vehicle. You do not know the story of what is going on or how crazy someone may be – road rage is a serious problem and you do not want to put yourself in a situation that could have been avoided.